Coping Mechanisms

#tbt to sometime in 2000, when I was totally lost🥴

👉Eating🎂🍦🍫 may have made me fat but it also helped me suppress emotions that I didn’t know how to deal with😮

👉Dissociating😵‍💫 may have made me invisible to myself but it protected me from things I had no skills to face🫣

👉Drugs & alcohol🥃 may have caused me more drama and health issues🤢 but it did keep me numb to things I didn’t know how to overcome🤷🏻‍♀️

👉People pleasing may have made me fake🎭 and gave me a lot of superficial relationships but it also protected me from potential losses that I wasn’t ready for🤔

👉Sleeping around might have brought me shame, STD’s along with having to have abortions😓….but it made me feel loved even if it was just for 5 minutes💔

I’m not ashamed at all of how I coped with my trauma🤷🏻‍♀️, you shouldn’t be neither😉. I use to be though, but now I know better, I understand that I did my best to survive with the tools I had🛠

We need to stop being ashamed of the coping mechanisms we chose to keep us alive as best as we knew how to at the time we used them, they did the job didn’t they?…they kept us going🤷🏻‍♀️

We need to change our perspective and stop shaming one another for the ways we chose to get through things that seemed impossible to get through and be proud that we got through them instead✊

We are all human and are doing the best we can to navigate⛵️ through this sometimes extremely challenging thing called life. Instead of judging one another we should support🤝 and encourage one another through our healing journeys💫

Everyone has darkness👺 that needs to be lite🌟. The best thing you can do for yourself is to do the work needed to integrate your shadow self so that you can become whole again🧘🏻‍♀️ and reconnect to your authentic self🙏. That’s why we are here🤗, to learn from our pains🤕 and our mistakes😖 so that we can become wiser and have the capacity to better guide the upcoming generations🕊