Estrangement…it might be one of the most confusing, painful and difficult parts of healing…I hate it, it truly breaks my heart & hurts so bad💔
Deciding to go no contact with family, the people who were supposed to love, guide & protect us no matter what, may be one of the most excruciating decisions to make😣….but sometimes, it’s necessary
I’ve been estranged off and on from my father through the years. He doesn’t want to hear my truth & wants me to live in his lies…I just can’t do it🤷🏻♀️, it goes against every cell in my body & I lose my shit🤬, it’s super toxic for me☠️ & makes me deteriorate mentally so I stay away😓
As I go deeper into my healing, I realize that I may have to do the same with my mother😥. It’s super painful because I love her and want her to heal but I now realize that that’s not in my hands…& that I have to put myself first so that I can be my best self & not pass on crap💩onto my children, I need to break the intergenerational cycle🙅🏻♀️
I know my heart will always be open to mending things🤲 but my guards are up and my boundaries are set in stone…I’m never going to go against my authentic self again✊
All this to say, that navigating all this can be super confusing and difficult🥴…it’s hard to know what’s right from wrong🤔.
This book is super helpful to clarify all that🙌🙌🙌, it includes so much info that will answer so many of your questions on the topic. I loved it and recommend it to all those who struggle with toxic families ✌️