Unhealed Inner Child Wounds Repeat Themselves

#tbt to august 1998 in Nigeria after my ex was deported🇳🇬

My ex husband was emotionally & physically abusive, he always gave me material things to contemplate for the abuse & the lack of time he had for me…exactly like my mother did when I was a child😓

When I first met him, he was a “political refugee”.…he didn’t have his papers therefore wasn’t really available. I married him anyway🤷🏻‍♀️. I thought if I saved him & got him his papers he would love me🙄.

He was deported within a year, I followed him at first but then he sent me back to live here in Toronto even though all I wanted to do is stay with him💔…it took 5 years for him to come back…this deepened my abandonment wounds of my father choosing his girlfriend over me, his own daughter🤕

I was 17 & he was 32 when we met, he fulfilled my need of having a father figure & now that I looked back he also groomed me and used me, like my grandfather did when he sexually abused me🤮

He embodied the personalities of the 3 major figures who wounded me as a child😳…in my wounded eyes, he was perfect😫

Whatever our inner child wounds are, until we heal them in ourselves, we keep looking to fix them on the outside therefore picking & attracting exactly the same kind of person who caused us the wounds🤯. We do this because we subconsciously want to show ourselves that we are worthy of love therefore look for all kinds of ways to fix it😕

The thing is, it doesn’t work like that🤷🏻‍♀️. You have to mend the wound within yourself, you have to give yourself what you needed and didn’t get first☝️…only once you’ve healed, will you start attracting the type of person you’ve always wanted & desired…the relationships you deserve…the love you crave so deeply🥰

It’s doable & within reach even though it may not look like it. All you need is the will to do it & the right tools🛠. If I did it, you can absolutely do it too✌️